A Mom’s View of Contentment in a Pinterest-Perfect World- Guest Post

I recently had the opportunity to connect with Gwen (aka…Momma Gwen ) through Compel Training. She’s a gifted writer with a wealth of experience and I am thrilled she has agreed to share some of her wisdom as a mother with our community! Please check it out and let her know what you think 🙂

Momma G 58101_492655695680_583315680_7365929_7788442_n(1)-2

Moms, do you find yourself thinking that you are just not doing enough as a mother or that your life would be so much better just if you had what someone else has?

This Pinterest-perfect world would have us believe that we can pull off being Martha Stewart and mother of the year without breaking a sweat.

Recently after watching a cooking show demonstrate how easy it was to put a frittata together with a few simple ingredients, I gave it a try.   As I later scraped the baked egg mess from the skillet, my husband smiled and passed me his plate.  This was not what I expected!  It was supposed to be this quiche-looking egg pie with veggies throughout.

I should have taken a picture to remind me that wrong expectations based on what I see can set me up for some real frustration. I could have spent the rest of the evening stomping around and frustrated that nothing I cook tastes like it should.  Instead, we took the light-heart route and laughed at how good it tasted, even though it looked horrible!

Our eyes deceive us in so many daily events.  The little foxes come our way:  our furniture is old, we can’t afford the fun summer camp our kids want to go to, our fingernails do not look as nice as hers, they have a nice house, he has a better job, and the list goes on and on.  By chasing these little foxes, we are distracted from the blessings at our feet:  our home, our kids, and even our laundry. Contentment in life runs out the door.

Contentment!  Where does it come from?  Why do we always want what others seem to have already attained?

The enemy is out to steal, kill, and destroy.  When your joy has been stolen, recognize that God certainly didn’t do that.  When your contentment in life has died, God has a reservoir of contentment that he will gladly pour out on you.  When your happiness in living today has been destroyed, sitting in God’s presence will renew that joy, contentment, and happiness beyond anything you can hope or imagine.

As God provides these things and our expectations are adjusted, it is important that we do not allow the enemy back in with the mom guilt punch.  Mom guilt messages sneak in with thoughts like these:  look at all the time you have lost, you should have done that better, other moms are better at this than you, or those other constant messages that we are just not up to par.

Why is it so hard to appreciate the blessings around us even when times are tough?

The prophet Habakkuk has a prayer in chapter 3 that addresses contentment amidst catastrophe:

Though the fig tree does not bud

and there are no grapes on the vines,

though the olive crop fails

and the fields produce no food,

though there are no sheep in the pen

and no cattle in the stalls,

Habakkuk 3:17  NIV

As you read the progression in verse 17, there are no figs, no grapes, no olives, no harvest in the fields, no sheep, and no cows.  Bottom line: they are going to starve and not be able to make a living.

Discontentment and frustration would be natural reactions.  Habakkuk does not opt for the natural reactions, instead, he writes the following:

Yet I will rejoice in the Lord,

I will be joyful in God my Savior.

The Sovereign Lord is my strength;

He makes my feet like the feet of a deer,

He enables me to tread on the heights –

Habakkuk 3:18-19 NIV

Wow!  I want contentment like that!

Even when faced with situations totally out of our control, as moms we have the opportunity to be joyful in the Lord. When we can set aside our wrong expectations, quiet those other voices, and enjoy the journey in front of us, we are positioning ourselves to receive from God.   That is where our strength and our contentment come from.

The joy of the LORD is our strength.  Nehemiah 8:10

I wanted to leave you with a Modern Paraphrase for Moms based on Habakkuk 3:

Though the laundry is stacked high

And the bills need to be paid,

Though my kid failed a test

And I forgot the meeting at work,

Though my clothes are out of style

And there’s nothing to eat in the house,

yet I will rejoice in the Lord,

I will be joyful in God my Savior.

The Sovereign Lord is my strength;

He makes my feet like the feet of a deer,

He enables me to tread on the heights
(yes, even the staircase one more time!)

Hang in there moms!  Life is not perfect, but we serve a perfect God!  Set your expectations on what God can do through you.  You will experience His joy and strength in your life and contentment will be with you.

Acts 20: 32 MSG  “Now I’m turning you over to God, our marvelous God whose gracious Word can make you into what He wants you to be and give you everything you could possibly need in this community of holy friends.

Blessings,

Momma Gwen

Momma Gwen:  Mom of 5 grown kids, married 31 years, mentor and advisor to younger women.  Her blog focuses on helping moms love the job title of Mom & ditch the mom guilt forever!    www.AskMommaGwen.com

One thought on “A Mom’s View of Contentment in a Pinterest-Perfect World- Guest Post

  1. I love this! Mommy Gwen broke it down to real life, real struggles, real hurts and pain. We all have these struggles..our praises will continuously bring us joy. Thank you for sharing!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *